Jen hit social media to share her experience after watching an interaction between a mother and her daughter at a swimming pool while on holiday.
Social media is well known now to be just a tiny glimpse into reality rather than a true reflection of reality.
That being said social media can be great for keeping up with the lives of friends and family, but it can also be very damaging if you judge your life against the lives you see on such social media platforms.
Although social media is a great way to keep up with the lives of the people we care about it can also be pretty damaging to judge our lives in comparison to those we see online.
One lady decided to go to Facebook to share her experience which highlighted exactly why we should never believe everything we read on these platforms.
While at the pool Jen was people watching and she watched a young mother and her daughter dressed in beautiful matching swimming suits.
The daughter patiently as her mother spent a number of minutes on her mobile phone before she spread out all of their pool toys and suncream on a matching beach towel. The mother then pulled out a tripod and took a number of selfies with her daughter.
Jen said the daughter then asked if they could get into the swimming pool but was told to wait while her mother posed her in front of the pool. They then kept going into the pool and coming back out with big smiles and saying cheese like they had done it a million times before.
The little girl was then told she could play while her mother wrnt back on her phone to take a call. THe child was politely asking ‘mama, can you come in the water with me, please?’.
“Mama glanced over at her but never got off the phone,” Jen wrote. “After 10 minutes mama ended her call, collected the sunscreen that was never applied, the water toys that never touched the water, and then her daughter and left the pool.
“I sat there thinking about what I’d witnessed for a while afterwards. I imagined the photos she took being perfectly edited and posted to social media with a caption like ‘Pool time with my girly! #Makingmemories’.”
Jen then was sat their thinking about another mother at home, in an untidy house who is tired because she has spent the day caring, cooking and entertaining her children.
“She’s going to look at that photo and she is going to compare herself to the perfect mama at the pool.
“She’s going to feel like a failure. Ugh!! She’ll never know that how she spent her time that day was so much better in God’s eyes and in her children’s eyes than that ‘perfect mama’ at the pool.
“What we see on social media isn’t always real. Sometimes, and often, it’s a complete set-up. It’s staged and filtered and it’s counterfeit.
“Mamas, don’t compare yourself. You ARE enough! You are amazing and the very best part is that you are REAL! Your dirty shirt and your messy house and your happy children are real and they are proof that you are doing it right.”
“Mamas, don’t compare yourself. You ARE enough! You are amazing and the very best part is that you are REAL! Your dirty shirt and your messy house and your happy children are real and they are proof that you are doing it right.”
Jen was on the wrong end of some “mum shaming” and jen later added that she in no way intended to judge the mother for her actions or her reasons for doing it. However she did want to highlight that filytered photos on social media are not real life and are very much choreographed
Jens post has had over 140,000 shares witha alot of people agreeing with Jen.
Her has since had more than 140,000 shares with others saying it was ‘spot on’. One wrote: “This is sooo very true. Real deal right here.”
